Halii ran her first Battlegrounds race in 2015 and couldn’t wait to conquer the course a second time. Early in 2016, she became pregnant with her first child. Excited for this new journey, she and her husband quickly made their announcement to family and friends. At their nine-week ultrasound, they received the heart-breaking news that their baby had passed away. Devastated, they turned to each other to get through this difficult time.
Halii and her husband both registered for our May 2016 race, not knowing if they would be able to get pregnant again, but just before the race they found out they were expecting another baby – and everything was healthy! Halii gave up her ticket to the race and cheered on the sideline. After a difficult pregnancy, she gave birth to a beautiful baby boy named Oliver just four weeks ago. Her goal is to get back to her pre-pregnancy self and be able to compete in our May 2017 race!
What 3 words would your friends use to describe you?
Passionate. Humorous. Dreamer.
What is the biggest obstacle you’ve overcome in your life?
The biggest obstacle in my life thus far wasn’t exactly an obstacle per se. I would consider it more of a defining moment that changed the course of my life.
Last year my husband and I became pregnant for the first time and we were so excited that we told our close family and friends right away. Well, with every pregnancy you have to wait a number of weeks before you can even see your little bundle of joy through an ultrasound. However, we were already choosing names and buying diapers.
We went in for our visit around nine weeks and we were so happy to see our little bit on the screen, it didn’t dawn on us that something was missing. That was when the doctor told us she couldn’t find a heartbeat. My world came crashing down. It took everything and then some to get me through the following weeks. In order to avoid the emotional toll of having to go through a miscarriage at home, I ended up having a D & C procedure a week after we got the devastating news. I wasn’t only recovering mentally, but I was also recovering physically. I can’t explain the agony of telling your family and your friends that your baby died, or finding that pack of diapers in the hallway closet and falling to the ground sobbing. The pain of that day still takes my breath away at times.
My husband and I got through it with the grace of God, and two months later we were pregnant again. Although we lost our first baby, I couldn’t give up the dream of starting a family – and now we have a healthy four-week old little boy who will probably run this race with us one day. Our son is surprisingly strong for such a young age, but I attribute that to his sibling in heaven.
Now I am determined to get back in shape in order to run the 2017 May race after a physically difficult third trimester. I was diagnosed with Symphysis Pubis Dysfunction early in my third trimester, and that caused everything to go out of alignment. It was so painful I couldn’t even kick a soccer ball. Now I weigh a bit more than I used to and I can hardly walk up a hill without being in pain, but I am determined – and after the year I had last year, to run this race would be a great personal success. Everyday I’m doing something to progress towards my goal. I can only do small things now (like walking or beginners yoga), but I’m keeping with it which is a success in itself.
What does life’s better when battled mean to you?
The phrase “Life’s Better When Battled” is a mindset that leads to achievement. Without some sort of struggle the good days wouldn’t be distinguishable from the bad.
What’s your favorite Battlegrounds obstacle?
My favorite Battlegrounds obstacle is The Gauntlet. It’s basically the last obstacle where it’s just up to you, or basically what is left of you. It’s designed as a solo obstacle, meaning your friends that helped you through the mud and water aren’t able to do much for you here. It’s a great test of your strength and stamina.
Is there anything else you’d like to share?
Although you shouldn’t let others determine your happiness, I will say without my husband, family and friends I wouldn’t have made it through last year in one piece. That’s one of the things I really love about The Battlegrounds race – it’s all about team work. A few of the people who got me through last year (my husband, my father and my mother-in-law) will also be running with me this year in May, and my mother and son will be there to cheer me on. A family that battles together, stays together!